Premarital Sex Damages Women

By Matty B. Duran

Past generations of women need to teach younger generations of women to seek protection in the Lord Jesus, to seek His protection in relationships. This generation of women needs to be protected from men. Why do I write this because I was not protected from men, this culture has bred men that prey on women, especially, younger women. This culture has taught a generation of children that premarital sex is alright as long as it is between two consenting adults, when nothing can be further from the truth. There is no sex except in marriage that does not damage those involved. Premarital sex damages the hearts of the men and women involved. Women become objects to be discarded by men. Men believe it is alright to use women like used garments that get dirty to be tossed.

We need a godly generation. This generation and past generations have been lied to There is no such thing as free love. The free love they speak of teaches that sex is to be used for pleasure, for gratification, sex is not a toy. I am reminded of a member of Three Dog Night I heard years ago, he said they, the band members and groupies would indulge in orgies, when they were done having sex, the person or persons would yell, "Switch!" I have never forgotten that interview and it sickened me when I heard it, and it stays with me as a permanent reminder of the depravity of man.

It is not only not "okay" for men to use women, it is sinful for men to use women. I don't care if this society calls it "consenting sex." Sex before marriage does not build and deepen a relationship. On the contrary, it breaks it down and destroys it. I see so many young women dressing suggestively, almost begging for love. I want to tell them that isn't going to get you love, just the opposite. It will attract every lusting dog to your lap. In the Church, as The Great Body of Christ we need to teach our young women to be obedient to God's Word, and we need to do this by example, by the example of our own lives. It is not enough to tell our young women not to sleep with men before they are married. We need to teach this truth by prayer and by Bible Study, by meditation with our children in the Word of God. This is the only way we can protect our children, by equipping them with the armor of Jesus Christ. By teaching our children, the walk with Jesus must be deep and abiding.

We need to take the Scripture for the Truth it preaches. Light as no place with darkness, believers are never supposed to even enter a relationship with an unbeliever. Why? They have different values, they follow the god of this world, they engage in premarital sex, they do not honor their own bodies, they do not know what love is, and they are very active in defrauding another of the gift of their own body, thinking it is theirs to appropriate. Any man that would put his hand on a woman in an inappropriate manner is not a man a woman should consider as a perspective mate. This would not happen if young women were built up. If there was love in the home, if parents demonstrated love for their daughters. Fathers love your daughters. They look to you for validation. You are to demonstrate the Heavenly Father's love. Teach your daughters what love, real love looks like. It isn't a man putting his hands all over a woman. It isn't a man who is trying to buy your daughter, it isn't flattering words; it isn't mere words. Don't let men assault our daughters with the words, "I love you." Those can be the three most dangerous words, used to seduce, used to lure and used to devastate.

A young woman giving her body to a man she is not married to and does not love her destroys her soul. Sex was designed for marriage, there is a cleaving to what intimacy is. A woman is then cleaved to a man who doesn't want her, has no love for her, has no real interest in her, she is something he appropriated like an animal chewing a raw piece of meat until he is satisfied. It is that graphic, it is a deep spiritual wound to be used for sex and then discarded.

I can write about this; it has happened to me a couple of times. The consequences are devastating. A man is stealing something from you, he is not giving you anything. You do not belong to him, there is only the illusion of belonging to him and feeling as if you do.

BE OBEDIENT TO GOD!

The sexual act is a consummation of the marriage covenant and when there is no marriage, the sexual act is a journey into suffering. Knowing another in a biblical sense makes a woman familiar with a man, but it is a type of witchcraft, if there is no marriage, this is not the way God meant it to be. A woman then becomes obsessed with a man who does not want her. This is cultural, following the customs of the nation.

DO NOT FOLLOW THE CUSTOMS OF THE NATIONS!

Some relationships may work out but there is always that tear in the fabric of that relationship that may one day become a marriage. Without Jesus in the equation of love in a relationship there will always be a tear.

I BESEECH YOUNG WOMEN,

all women to wait until you have been married in the sight of Holy God to have sex.

 For the is the Will of God your sanctification; that you should abstain from sexual immorality. That each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God, that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we have also forewarned you and testified. For God did not call us to uncleanness, but to holiness. Therefore, he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who has also given us His Holy Spirit.

(1Thessalonians 4:3-8)

 Only the Lord Christ can heal the damage done from premarital sexual relationships. These types of relationships include all types of sexual interaction. The Lord has healed me, and in some respects, is still healing me from the brokenness these relationships had caused.